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The following experience report comes from a participant in our study group:

My 7-year-old daughter E. had quite bad cavities in various different spots. We had the dentist treat the spots that were most severely affected. To my knowledge, that must have been about 7-8 of 10 carious spots. We left a few smaller spots untreated. Here we were advised that we should keep an eye on them.

We were recommended, actually more pushed, to seal the teeth so that no further cavities could form. After a somewhat longer discussion with the dentist about the sense of doing this, and some examples from my own relatives in whom cavities formed despite sealing, I was slightly annoyed, canceled all dentist appointments (except for a check-up appointment half a year later), and told her that I would take care of it myself.

I looked into a little what her "biting conflict" might be, and relatively quickly came to the conclusion that it could really only be her very domineering and overbearing 10-year-old older sister L. So I decided to try two things:

Firstly, I started to stabilize E. emotionally by simply being there for her more and explicitly paying attention to conflict situations with her sister L. During these conflict situations, situations also arose more often in which I protected E. from L. and quite clearly put L. in her place, explaining to her how this might feel for E. now. Always in E.'s presence, to further strengthen her emotionally and to show her that she isn't alone with this and that I protect her.

Secondly, I banned any fluoride toothpaste from the household (which is, after all, particularly important to dentists) and opted for alternatives. In the morning she got an orange-flavored tooth powder with xylitol for brushing her teeth. At midday, after lunch, she chewed an xylitol chewing gum, and in the evening I gave her a calcium-building tablet to use for brushing her teeth. She used these things until they ran out. I didn't buy more. Then she simply switched back to a fluoride-free toothpaste.

About a week ago was then the next check-up appointment (so half a year later), at which I unfortunately couldn't be present due to my rehab stay. My ex-partner, however, told me about it afterward, that the dentist was completely stunned. She apparently determined that the cavities had become inactive and that the teeth had started to remineralize.

I have to admit that I didn't really make a big science out of it. I can't tell you which or how many teeth were ultimately affected or had been affected, or whether the remineralization came from the building-up agents or whether those could have been left out too. The reaction alone from the clearly very impressed dentist was enough for me. 😁
My ex-partner thanked me again by phone, from the bottom of her heart, for having taken such good care of E.'s teeth, and now wants to continue doing exactly as I handled it, because this has also given her hope that her teeth can become healthy again. 😊